Its been a while...

Its been over a month since I updated my blog. A lot has happened. I'll give you the highlights.


The day after my last day at work my awesome co-work friends threw me a going away dinner. At first I didn't want to go. I was so depressed about the situation that I wasn't in the mood. My ex boyfriend Kevin talked me into going. (we broke up a couple of days before I quit.) He was right. I had a great time, got a little drunk and laughed a bunch. My WF friends are the best! I felt mega loved that night. Everyone gave me tons of hugs. Franky gave me the best going away gift. It made me cry! He brought my name plate and my flag with my WOW pins. It was exactly what I wanted! I also got some good news from my managers. Since I voluntary left the bank in good standing, I am eligible to apply again in 6 months! YAY!!

(back row: Franky, Jacqueline, Alicen, Amy. Front row: Catherine, Me,
Brooke, Angel)


I officially decided to sign up for the massage therapy program at San Jac. In a full year, I could be certified in 17 states as a massage therapist. Awesome! I could create my own hours. I would have my choice of "offices" spa, hotels, clinics, physical therapist offices, or even freelance. And there are several technics I could specialize in. I signed up for my classes.






After Kevin and I decided to part ways, I was heart broken. I can't remember the last time I was so upset. There was still texts and IMs exchanged. We truly are good friends. That was hard for me. I still wanted to be with him but at this point we were not getting along. I don't remember how it happened, but we had lunch together on day. We talked about what we wanted in the relationship and what we felt was missing. We laid all our cards on the table and made some compromises. We still loved each other and still wanted to be with each other but we needed to take it down a notch. We decided to get back together. Its been about a month since then. So far its been great. The step back has been good for both of us. We've been really happy.



The more I thought about massage therapy, the more unsure I became. I started to consider redirecting again in to physical therapy. That is a more stable profession, still allowing me to have flexible hours, and liberty of locations. I would still be helping people. I went to the councilors again to ask about it. The program is only available at the south campus. I would have to take my classes there. I would have to apply to be accepted into the program. I would also have to take a couple of anatomy and physiology classes. I don't do will with needles, blood, surgery and the thought of "deconstructing" an animal was too much for me.

While waiting to talk to the councilors (I had an hour wait), I looked up my previous degree plan of Business Administration. I realized that I only needed 8 classes (8!) to finish my degree. I didn't know it was only 8. Why the heck would I start all over in a completely new field of study when I can be done in a couple of semesters?! So I dropped all of my massage classes and went back to business. I signed up for 4 classes and paid. School starts Jan 19th. I'm excited about it again.










I haven't found a job, but I haven't been diligently looking. I'm taking a full course load and I have a tenancy to let school fall by the wayside. I'm afraid to overload myself. I need to find a way to balance the two. (and on my own feet!)

It is often hard to distinguish between the hard knocks in life and those of opportunity. ~Frederick Phillips

Yesterday I quit my job. It was a very hard decision to make. One that I didn't want to make. A few days ago I wrote "My job is in the air cuz of a mistake that can't seem to be found or resolved. It doesn't look good for me. I love my job and I'm praying that a miracle happens." It was becoming to stressful to go into work every day and wait to see if that was my last day. I chose to take control of the situation and not let the situation control me. I told my managers that I was resigning. They were sad but knew that was really my best option. I am so upset about it having to come to that. I really did love my job. But, as we all know, when one door closes another on opens.

However, I was not about to sit at home and feel sorry for myself. You can not wait for opportunity, you must create them. I went straight to the school to talk to the counselors. I wanted to see exactly what I needed to finish my degree. I also went to talk about possibly changing my degree. I have a better idea of what I want to do. I'm excited about the possibilities.


I am not going to hunt for a new job right away. I can coast till the end of year comfortably. I will take this time to get more of my life in order...and clean my room!

Memory is the diary that we all carry about with us. -Oscar Wilde

They say they best relationships are with your best friend. But what happens when you and your best friend break up? What do you do when the person you go to when your happy, or sad, or need advice isn't there anymore? How are you supposed to move on when all you think about is how much fun that person was or what great friends you are?


There are reasons why we aren't together. I need to work on me before I can be with someone else. I hope the paths our lives take us will cross again. For now I will hold tight to the memories.


"Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, and the things you never want to lose." (sage words from the Wonder Years)

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger...

The worse part about cheesy cliches is that they are true, even if they don't comfort in the moment. Yes "time heals all wounds", I know "what doesn't kill me will only make me stronger" and"everything happens for a reason", and of course "its always darkest before the dawn".

Right now things seem pretty dark. In the "about me" section of Facebook, I said "I've returned to school and I'm kicking ass at it! I got a new job that I love.I'm more stress free. Things are starting to fall into place for me. I'm very happy with all the changes in my life". Boy how quickly things change. All of those changes are up in the air and I'm not as excited about them.

My school is up in the air cuz I can't decide if I'm taking the right path. I might redirect but I'm scared too. Which puts my career in the air. I still haven't decided what to be when I grow up.

My job is in the air cuz of a mistake that can't seem to be found or resolved. It doesn't look good for me. I love my job and I'm praying that a miracle happens.

My love life is in the air. Not only am I divorced, my boyfriend and I broke up. We seem like a great match. But for some reason that neither of us can express in words we aren't. We've talked and talked trying to figure out if we are really incompatible or if its a misunderstanding and poor word choice. I'm not sure what our conclusion is. For now, we decided to let our lives unfold as the may. If we are meant to be, we'll meet again. The worse part is we really are great friends and have so much fun together doing nothing.

as Heraclitus said " Nothing endures but change." As much as my life seems to suck now, the tides will change again and it will be smooth sailing. (until the next storm)

"God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

First things, first

I've always hated when you meet someone and they say "tell me a little about yourself". My first thought is always "what do you want to know?" My name is Abby. I just turn 31 in October. I was divorced in June. I went back to school in 2008. Its not easy to sum yourself up in a few words, besides, what you think of yourself and what others think are not always the same. I like to think that I'm funny, smart, cute and a good friend. I hope I'm right.

Like I said I'm newly divorced. Now I have to relearn how to meet people, flirt and go on dates. Its been 10 years since I did that. I'm a little rusty. When your young its as easy as shooting fish in a barrel. When you get older, out of school, work full time, (or got to school with people 10 years younger than you and work part time) where do you meet people?


My goal for this blog is to be a diary of sorts. A place to put my random thoughts and adventures. I used to have myspace page and used to blog quite a bit. Once the beginning of the end of my married hit, I took down my page. I miss expressing myself but I'm rusty at that too!

I hope you enjoy your journey with me as I navigate though my new path.